Suffering and Nietzsche

OK, so listening to the side of the tape about Nietzsche was a bit interesting and confusing at the same time. He likes pain? Maybe because of the sheltered life he lived, he grew up to despise and rebel against it. He is one of those philosophers brought up in a good Go atmosphere , just to turn into a atheist who talks about pain. On the tape it was explained that suffering is good. And that the healthy persons life is full of suffering. Is this true? I mean I know to go through many trials and tribulations is to be made stronger, but it can be detrimental to a person to have a life of suffering. Not everyone can bounce back after going through such pain.
I do not agree when it was said that , "Suffering just happens" and that it was "Bound to happen." No, suffering doesn't just happen, it happens because people take certain paths in their lives that causes them and others to suffer whether it be intentionally or accidentally. I do believe there are circumstances that blaming oneself is appropriate , but Nietzsche asks , "Why blame yourself for something?" You blame yourself maybe because you see that there was something you could have done, but didn't or you see that there was something you shouldn't have done but did. This philosopher really had some ideas that were out there, and needed to stay out there. I didn't like his points at all, at least the way they were portrayed on the tape.